That Feeling....

Have you ever been in a relationship where you give your all and it seems like its a slap in the face?

Like you do everything in your power to satisfy that person and it still blows up in your face. When you first get in a relationship with somebody, what is that based off of? Could it be the initial connection that you both shared or something more? Then when everything hits the fan, what keeps the both of you together?

I believe that a factor in these certain situations is misunderstanding coming from both people. If you could understand where a person is coming from and vice-versa that could possibly have a different outcome. Communication is key!

Attitudes are another thing that I think play a huge role in bad situations happening in relationships. You have people that once they get an attitude everything goes downhill from there. Simply because they are so caught up in their emotions while trying to release that built up feeling in any way possible. Saying hurtful things, doing hurtful things, and even acting a certain can be results from having an attitude.

Trying to think of why things are happening can get overwhelming. Therefore you need to find coping mechanisms to help alleviate that feeling of being overwhelmed.

What a Year, Goodbye 2013

    

 In 2013 so much has happened but by far the happiest moment for me was the birth of my twin nephews Jet and Jax on the 4th of July. They have brought so many smiles to my family, it is ridiculous. They were a breath of fresh air, and I can't wait for all the time I get to spend with them. I love these little guys.

    I lost one of my dogs this year, he was with me since the beginning of high school. I enjoyed having him here all these years and I know he is a better place now. All around i couldn't really ask for a better pet. He was truly like a member of the family.

My Grandfather turned 80 this year, what a milestone. I couldn't have asked for a better grandparent. Sometimes difficult but still irreplaceable. At 80 he still does everything that he can for his family.

There are so many more things that happened in this year. My cousin revealed that she will be expecting a baby girl sometime in January. I strengthened my friendship with my real friends and cut off the fake people. I am leaving most of the negative behind, but it's the same me going into 2014.  

Communication is Key!

Communication is the key and the base to all real relationships. You can't even call yourself a friend if you never talk to that person. Some people think just saying hi, how you doing, and bye is having a conversation; but that is basically checking up on somebody. Some people suck at communication, we all know or have a few people like that in our life. How is a person going to know if you're going through something or need some help if you don't talk to them about it. Even through text messages, for an example if I never hear from you after I have reached out numerous times there is no point of me even texting you. Communication goes a long way, there has to be some kind of communication to get any where.

The Truth Is Always Better !!

The TRUTH may hurt for a little while, but a LIE hurts forever!!

I know sometimes it can be hard to tell someone the truth, because you are taking their feelings into consideration. Honestly hearing the truth from a person you consider your friend is much better than hearing it from someone who barely knows you, if they know you at all. Most people fear the truth in certain situations. If you have a friend who has promiscuous tendencies let her know that she might wanna change her ways before she gets labeled as something negative. Be straight up with her so that she gets the point. Same thing goes for a person that buys this and that to increase their sex appeal thinking its helping when actually its making  the whole situation worse. Let them know that buying accessories, tight clothes, long hair, fancy cars, and what ever else people do to get noticed is not what they should be doing. Lazy people need to be told the truth also, that no one wants to clean up, take care, or support another grown person. So they need to get up and do something with their life. People who eat to much, just tell them that it is not healthy, and that they need to slow down. You are not trying to hurt anyone's feeling by telling them the truth, you are simply trying to open up their eyes. Honesty is truly the best policy.