That Feeling....

Have you ever been in a relationship where you give your all and it seems like its a slap in the face?

Like you do everything in your power to satisfy that person and it still blows up in your face. When you first get in a relationship with somebody, what is that based off of? Could it be the initial connection that you both shared or something more? Then when everything hits the fan, what keeps the both of you together?

I believe that a factor in these certain situations is misunderstanding coming from both people. If you could understand where a person is coming from and vice-versa that could possibly have a different outcome. Communication is key!

Attitudes are another thing that I think play a huge role in bad situations happening in relationships. You have people that once they get an attitude everything goes downhill from there. Simply because they are so caught up in their emotions while trying to release that built up feeling in any way possible. Saying hurtful things, doing hurtful things, and even acting a certain can be results from having an attitude.

Trying to think of why things are happening can get overwhelming. Therefore you need to find coping mechanisms to help alleviate that feeling of being overwhelmed.

Back Fired!?

Have you tried to help somebody before and things just did not go as planned?

It back-fired and blew up in your face. Then you find yourself wondering why did I even offer assistance or even put myself in that situation. It happens to all of us, we try to do something and it doesn't turn out the way we intended.

So I'm going to stop volunteering my help, and my advice. Just wait until I am asked for help or for  my advice. That seems easier than taking it into your own hands.

Keepin' It Real by PractiKAL - Seg. 2

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Okay Listen Up:

You know darn well you want to look your absolute best  -trim and fit, both in and out of your clothes -  right? Come on now - lets keep it real - yes you do. You want to feel good about your physical appearance.

• You want to be energized for more than a few hours. 

• Don’t you know you can.

•  Realize you control your destiny whether it be on a job, in a relationship and your dress or pants size.

• You also control the way you feel.                               

So when you walk in McDonald’s and order a Quarter Pounder with Cheese, medium fries and large Coke (then you super size your entire order) - go back and read “First” above.  Guess what - you just controlled your destiny with regard to your dress/pants size. You are not taking this serious. The scale and your waist size will not go down if you keep these eating habits.  You must first break your junk food habits or at least minimize them.

So for Segment 2 your challenge is to determine if you have the WILL POWER to resist going to FAST FOOD JOINTS like McDonald’s, etc .  If you can’t have fast food, lets see what you will substitute the junk food with. Also, during this first week, make sure you consume more water than normal and incorporate a variety of fresh fruits through the day as your snack.  Please refrain from snacking on sweets, chips and dips, because you know once you start, you can’t stop and then the next thing you know, you are looking for a garbage to throw the empty bag into.  You know you do this, so stop now.

Doing the above will give your system of well deserved break from the abuse you have put it through by eating poorly.  Also, if you think you have to eat meat with every meal - you are sadly mistaken.  So challenge yourself for a week and in the next segment I will tell you what you just accomplished.

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KAL

Any Questions E-Mail Me: karen.holmes.8723@icloud.com

Communication is Key!

Communication is the key and the base to all real relationships. You can't even call yourself a friend if you never talk to that person. Some people think just saying hi, how you doing, and bye is having a conversation; but that is basically checking up on somebody. Some people suck at communication, we all know or have a few people like that in our life. How is a person going to know if you're going through something or need some help if you don't talk to them about it. Even through text messages, for an example if I never hear from you after I have reached out numerous times there is no point of me even texting you. Communication goes a long way, there has to be some kind of communication to get any where.

Just Do You!

    I basically want to say that you should just be yourself, do you in other words. Always trying to please somebody does not really benefit you. I am not saying that you shouldn't do things for people, but every one should not get that type of treatment. Most people are blind to the fact that a person actually likes them, and values their friendship. Like text messages that don't get replied to, calls that don't get answered, and dates that are never upheld. There are just some things you just can't control. In reality what kind of friend is that, I don't need people like that in my life. When things get like that, you basically need to draw the line and start doing you. Do what makes you happy even if it's just playing the game, smoking, drinking, going out, hanging with people, or whatever just do it. Don't set yourself up for failure. Everything will be better off that way trust me.

The Truth Is Always Better !!

The TRUTH may hurt for a little while, but a LIE hurts forever!!

I know sometimes it can be hard to tell someone the truth, because you are taking their feelings into consideration. Honestly hearing the truth from a person you consider your friend is much better than hearing it from someone who barely knows you, if they know you at all. Most people fear the truth in certain situations. If you have a friend who has promiscuous tendencies let her know that she might wanna change her ways before she gets labeled as something negative. Be straight up with her so that she gets the point. Same thing goes for a person that buys this and that to increase their sex appeal thinking its helping when actually its making  the whole situation worse. Let them know that buying accessories, tight clothes, long hair, fancy cars, and what ever else people do to get noticed is not what they should be doing. Lazy people need to be told the truth also, that no one wants to clean up, take care, or support another grown person. So they need to get up and do something with their life. People who eat to much, just tell them that it is not healthy, and that they need to slow down. You are not trying to hurt anyone's feeling by telling them the truth, you are simply trying to open up their eyes. Honesty is truly the best policy. 

Chicago or Chi-Raq ??

Look violence in Chicago has gotten so out of hand these days its ridiculous. I remember when I was attending CSU (Chicago State University) the weather was just starting to break. So of course people were happy that the weather was starting to get hot, but the first two weeks of hot weather 40 people were shot. People crack jokes all the time about how the heat brings the violence, but to turn on the news everyday and see some one has fallen again due to a shooting is very sad. Like when you need a gun to sit on your own porch you know things are getting critical.  People coming outside with guns tucked away saying " Man I always have to be prepared, you never know what is about to happen." It is crazy how some people come outside and see guns and have no reaction, that is the part that is crazy. People are so used to seeing guns that it doesn't even have an effect on them. Like it is just crazy when I think about it.

Relationship Problems

I have to voice my opinion about some things that go in relationships. When in a relationship with somebody there are certain restrictions and rules that apply. Relationships should be fun and happy but none are perfect. If you have a good relationship with someone, you feel great, but problems arise and it takes a toll on you. Say that you are in a relationship and your boyfriend/girlfriend becomes friends with someone of the opposite sex, immediately some people will have a problem with it. (Everyone has friends of the opposite sex, but when in a relationship they know when enough is enough.) Then you notice that your boyfriend/girlfriend is starting to talk about this person more. It then turns into your boyfriend/girlfriend calling, flirting, and hanging out with them. When you confront your boyfriend/girlfriend about it, that causes an argument. So now you if you trusted them in the beginning you start to question that. Then once you are fed up with the actions being displayed, you decide that you want to give your boyfriend/girlfriend a choice "me or your new friend", and they tell you that "I'm not going to stop talking to her/him". At that point you should leave, but you don't because you "Love" him/her, but they are not showing you "Love". From now on every time you bring up your boyfriend/girlfriend's new friend it will cause an argument, but the whole time they haven't told you that their "new friend" likes them, but your not dumb. After all that if you decide to continue to pursue that person that is your choice, might not be the best but then again it is YOUR CHOICE. That relationship should have never made it that far....

One Bad Thing About The iPad

First off I would like to say that, I am an apple fan. I like most of their merchandise, but something that does turn me away from having apple everything is the fact that the iPad neither has a USB port nor does it read as a mass storage drive (the iPhone doesn't either)  when plugged into the computer. (I know the cord gets plugged into a USB port on the computer but that is not what i am talking about. I am talking in the since of plugging a "Flash Drive" into the iPad). When plugged into the computer, why do i have to use iTunes? Why can't I just copy a movies and/or music over that I already have on the computer instead of having to convert it and all this other nonsense?

By the way I have the iPad.

Video Recorded April 6th 2012:
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